Saturday, December 6, 2014

Protection Against Pornography

Rules of Engagement

With such a vast variety of information and images found online, the Internet has opened up a wide new set of topics for parents to discuss with their children.  Most of us find it difficult to talk to our children about sex in general, let alone, the harmful effects of pornography.  Yet, it's important to remember that even if your children are not looking for Internet pornography, chances are, they have come across harmful sexual content at some point, and it is your job to protect and guide them about their natural questions about sex.

"If I was a parent, I'd want to establish that relationship with my kid and to actually be honest with them and talk to them, and say, 'I went through this, and even seeing pornography once can just hurt you so much.  Seeing little pictures can put all these things in your mind.' It's just horrible."
— Aaron, Age 19

 
My child has stumbled upon online pornography—now what?
 
First, try to:
 
·         Understand that children are naturally curious about sex
·         Realize that kids need and want adult guidance
·         Educate your child about healthy sexuality, respect for themselves and the opposite sex
·         Help your child to replace counterfeit messages with messages of wholesome sexual values
  
Keep the lines of communication open by listening to what your kids say and what they don’t say.
 
Ask your children:
 
1) Have you ever seen something online that made you uncomfortable or curious?
2) Have you accidentally seen sexual pictures online?
3) How did that happen? What did you do? How did it make you feel?

4) Have any of your friends ever accessed pornography? Accidentally or intentionally?


Resource: http://www.internetsafety101.org/pornographyrulesofengagement.htm

Teenage pregnancy and abstinence

Teenagers and young adults are at the highest risk for unplanned pregnancy. Unplanned pregnancy can result in abortions, emotional distress, and inadequate  care for children born in these circumstances.

There are health dangers and emotional risks in teenage pregnancy.


There are options and support for unplanned and teenage 

The only 100% effective way to prevent unplanned pregnancy is through abstinence. 




Teaching Children Abstinence

Preteens and teenagers face pressure to have sex and harder choices than any generation has before. Teen pregnancy has risen and so has abortions in the past few decades. Sex education should be taught at a young age, but it is just as important to keep teaching children about the importance of abstinence and the dangers of early pregnancy, STD's, and the emotional and physical damage that comes with premarital unprotected sex.  as children enter their preteen and teenage years. Here are a few links to articles about how to teach children and teenagers about abstinence.

"You don't have to be a virgin to practice abstinence. Sometimes people who have been having sex decide not to continue having sex. Even if a person has been having sex, he or she can still choose abstinence to prevent pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) in the future."


"Keep the lines of communication open by allowing your teens to ask questions when she has them. Additionally, if you don’t know the answer to something, be honest and tell her that you will find out and get back to her. Honesty helps your teen feel that you respect her, which makes her respect you more. When she respects you more, she’s less likely to want to disappoint you by going against your wishes."

Here is a link to another blog that teaches about abstinence and gives many more resources on how to teach abstinence and the importance of abstinence.

Friday, December 5, 2014


TED Talk: The Great Porn Experiment


POLICIES

-  What Policies are being set to help countries teach Abstinence?


On 2011 the U.N. Special Rapporteur on the Right to Education Issued a report claiming that children have a right to - comprehensive sexuality education.  This includes:
-          - getting rid of feelings of guilt
-               Have fun, have sex and just use condoms
-              Include homosexual education
-              Include sexual “right” to “sexual pleasure.”
-            Same sex partners
-              Sex when you are drunk
     
-         A Booklet titled Healthy, Happy and Hot teaching
       1. To support your sexual pleasure
       2. They can have sex in different ways
       3. Sexual pleasure through masturbation
-       
WARNING: This is something the U.N. is pushing to ratify in the United States and it has already been ratified in other countries.

-Please watch this video to see what other countries have done, and how ABSTINENCE has been the best result.

  YOU MUST SEE THIS VIDEO

What can we do as parents to make a difference.  Watch this following video

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kz8WBDfzpDU&feature=player_detailpage 



Marriage Can Be More Satisfying When People Practice Abstinence




Benefits in Delaying Sex Until Marriage
Happier Marriages, More Satisfying Sex Among the Perks, Study Finds
 A report, just published in the Journal of Family Psychology, suggests that people who delay having sex do indeed have better relationships, on four different measures (see table). That result applies to both men and women.

WebMD News Archive
Dec. 28, 2010 -- It may be common for couples to have sex before marriage, but a new study shows that couples who wait until marriage are happier with the quality of sex than couples who have intercourse before their vows.
What’s more, couples who delay sex until their wedding night have more stable and happier marriages than couples who have premarital sex, according to the study, which appears in the Journal of Family Psychology.
The study involved 2,035 married participants in an online assessment of marriage called “RELATE.” According to the study, people who waited until marriage:
  • rated sexual quality 15% higher than people who had premarital sex
  • rated relationship stability as 22% higher
  • rated satisfaction with their relationships 20% higher
The benefits were about half as strong for couples who became sexually active later in their relationships but before marriage.
 
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Pornography Kills Love... of all kinds


I don't often share my experience with people unless I feel like it will help them. Recently one of my teachers said that this experience I have had will be able to help others. Therefore I have decided to share it. This is my story and the lesson I learned.

Wedding bells, a beautiful reception, and marrying the so-called “love of my life” quickly approached me at the young age of 20. The thought never even crossed  my mind that those things would not actually occur. Everything seemed perfect.  Floating on cloud nine—as they say—can sometimes cause a symptom known as “blinded by love.” I became the epitome of just such a scenario. My almost-perfect fiancĂ© could hardly improve, in my eyes. However, he left me completely unaware of a very deadly secret: he had an addiction to pornography. Once I knew, I felt like the victim of the two. However, I could not completely blame him. He did allude previously to having such imperfections, but I never asked the hard questions that women should ask the men they date when considering marriage. Pornography has swept the earth, and one can safely assume that nearly all young men and some women have come in contact with it at some time or another. With his secret divulged, he claimed that it no longer burdened him; I believed him. Later I found pornography on his phone and realized that he had lied to me. I couldn’t marry someone I did not trust. Calling off a wedding engagement became the new “most difficult experience of my life”, but it also strengthened me and helped me learn a very valuable lesson: pornography kills love. 

Thursday, December 4, 2014

1 in 4 teen girls has sexually transmitted disease




Click the link to read just how important it is to inform your teenagers of how important it is to be abstinent. Don't be afraid to talk about it! 

Know the facts!


  1. STAY ABSTINENT!
  2. 11 Facts About Teens and STD's  
  3. 1. New estimates show that there are about 20 million new infections in the United States each year.
  4. 2. Young people age 15 to 24 account for 50% of all new STDs, although they represent just 25% of the sexually experienced population
  5. 3. 46% of American high school students have had sexual intercourse and potentially are at risk for human immunodeficiency virus (HIV) infection and other STDs. Get yourself tested for HIV -- and tell others you did!
  6. 4. Roughly 75% of all reported gonorrhea is found in people age 15 to 29, with the highest infection rates found in teen girls age 15 to 19 and 20- to 24-year-old men.
  7. 5. The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention estimates that there are more than 110 million STIs among men and women in the US. This includes both new and existing infections.

  8. 6. The annual number of new infections is roughly equal among teen girls (51%) and teen guys (49%).

  9. 7. HPV (human papillomavirus) accounts for the majority of prevalent STIs in the US.

  10. 8. The US has the highest rate of STD infection in the industrialized world.

  11. 9. 6 in 10 sexually active high school teens reported using condoms during their most recent sexual intercourse.

  12. 10. 1 in 4 teens contracts an STD/STI every year

  13. 11. Less than half of adults age 18 to 44 have ever been tested for an STD other than HIV/AIDS.