Friday, December 5, 2014

Pornography Kills Love... of all kinds


I don't often share my experience with people unless I feel like it will help them. Recently one of my teachers said that this experience I have had will be able to help others. Therefore I have decided to share it. This is my story and the lesson I learned.

Wedding bells, a beautiful reception, and marrying the so-called “love of my life” quickly approached me at the young age of 20. The thought never even crossed  my mind that those things would not actually occur. Everything seemed perfect.  Floating on cloud nine—as they say—can sometimes cause a symptom known as “blinded by love.” I became the epitome of just such a scenario. My almost-perfect fiancĂ© could hardly improve, in my eyes. However, he left me completely unaware of a very deadly secret: he had an addiction to pornography. Once I knew, I felt like the victim of the two. However, I could not completely blame him. He did allude previously to having such imperfections, but I never asked the hard questions that women should ask the men they date when considering marriage. Pornography has swept the earth, and one can safely assume that nearly all young men and some women have come in contact with it at some time or another. With his secret divulged, he claimed that it no longer burdened him; I believed him. Later I found pornography on his phone and realized that he had lied to me. I couldn’t marry someone I did not trust. Calling off a wedding engagement became the new “most difficult experience of my life”, but it also strengthened me and helped me learn a very valuable lesson: pornography kills love. 

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